Is a key without a lock, still a key?

Of course it is still physically what it has always been.

But what is its value without the function that came with being in consort with its trusty ‘lock’ counterpart? 

Its “being” is defined entirely by what it does: open the lock.

Its purpose is gone.

Its identity.

Yes, you may say that it could be a pendant, a paperweight, a lucky charm or even an instrument.

But none of this adds up to the key it once was. The power and status it held as the only one that could open that door.

I have had a few conversations this week about just this scenario. 

Something has gone. Something or someone that created meaning for who I am, what I do, is no longer here.

My place in my system of people and connections has changed and I am not sure where I fit now. Where I am of value.

It takes a subtle reframing to change from ‘where am I of value’ to ‘what value do I have to give’? Where, how and to whom would I like to give it?’

This reframe can help you reclaim some power over the situation to influence how you reestablish yourself in this new system in a way that satisfies what you want, not just what others need.

So take a pause. 

Process the loss. 

Self first, then, and only then, the system.